Hey LUVLIES!!! Happy Friday! Before we get into it today I have got some amazing news! We have our domain back!!! Yes I have finally recovered my domain. I guess it took me just being over waiting and making a post to make that happen. Another thing is that I forgot to mention in the last post that your girl is now a published Author! You can grab a copy of my book Beyond The Smile on Amazon today!! Please support a sister lol. Now enough chit chat lets get into the content for today.
As young women, growing up in a world that is so superficial and shallow there are a few things I wish I was taught as a young girl. I believe that if I was equipped with these small but powerful nuggets it would have made a great deal of difference in my life.
One of the things that I regret not being taught most is simply that I am enough. I never really felt like I fit in much anywhere. I mean I’ve always had friends however I’ve always felt as though I was not adequate enough and so I found myself compensating for that quite a bit. I would try so hard to alter myself to fit into circles, just to get persons to like me. I never truly appreciated the uniqueness of my personality and so it was always harder for me to develop self confidence. I always thought that being picked on for the things that made me stand out like my curly hair in high school was the worst thing that could happen. I never truly appreciated the fact that I seem to stand out even when I am trying my hardest not to. I always see this quality as being annoying and never wanted anyone to feel like I was intentionally attention seeking. Instead of embracing this I always cower and try to make myself so minuscule. It was not until very late in life that I began to embrace my uniqueness. The things that causes my friends to jokingly call me "boujee" and the things I once deemed as being annoying. The truth about it is we all have things that causes us to stand out some of us just know how to embrace said things better than others.
The second thing I wish I was taught is: it is ok to fail. A lot of us were raised on survival instead of love. Therefore, there are a few key lessons that weren’t taught to us. For instance, there was barely any room for error. Anything less than perfection was not even recognized as you trying, it automatically became a failure. No one taught me that failing was actually a good thing. There are valuable lessons to be learnt in failing. It teaches you resilience for one, another thing is that it teaches you how to be more appreciative of your wins. Failure is completely normal and can shape you in ways winning cannot. I mean are you even being challenged if you are able to win at everything you do? Not being taught that failure is not bad caused me to miss out on opportunities, it caused me to not want to make mistakes as I felt like I was a failure. As I grew older I began learning that failure in many ways is a gift. It gives us a chance to be humbled and to gain fresh perspective. If we embrace our failures there is so much we can learn, imagine being able to fail and still try again, that is where resilience is built. Being able to fail gracefully builds character. It is in failing that we are given the chance to try again and make something new, thus giving us the chance to tap deeper into our creativity. There is so much beauty in failing if we look at it from the right angel. There is a beautiful quote that I think sums this all up. It simply says "Resilience is something required of all successful people, and there is no better teacher of resilience than failure".
I have said all of this to say, embrace those unpopular thoughts you might have, the thing that others mock you about. Truth be told most times those are the things that will lead you into your greatest successes.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Psalm 139:14
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